Friday’s Favourites: James Spader. That’s all.

Every Friday I share some of my favourite things from that week: articles, music, videos, books, food, makeup – pretty much anything goes – and I am very willing to admit I “stole” this idea from the wonderful Gala Darling and her “Things I Love Thursday.

First a recap from the past week…

and… I was quoted in Cosmopolitan UK! 

lauren bersaglio cosmopolitan uk

Now on to my favourites…

 #1 – James Spader

Seriously, guys, if you’re not watching The Blacklist – start now! James Spader is my all-time favourite actor (Boston Legal, anyone?!) and he doesn’t disappoint in this show. Season 1 just finished, so catch up before season 2 starts – OMG!!!

Here’s a little James love for you all…

“These “friends” you mention, the ones whispering in the shadows — tell them from me….

the blacklist

#2 – 26 Reasons Why Parents Shouldn’t Be Allowed To Have Phones

This was hilarious!

#3 – This song from Nashville

Seriously, guys, this song is so powerful, especially if you ever feel like giving up on your passion…

What if you’re just a vessel
And God gave you something special
It ain’t yours to throw away
It ain’t yours to throw away
Every time you open up your mouth
Diamonds come rolling out
It ain’t yours to throw away” 

#4 – The Perks of Being a Wallflower

Is it OK that I’m still obsessed with this book and movie? Particularly this quote…

“It’s much easier to not know things sometimes. Things change and friends leave. And life doesn’t stop for anybody. I wanted to laugh. Or maybe get mad. Or maybe shrug at how strange everybody was, especially me. I think the idea is that every person has to live for his or her own life and than make the choice to share it with other people. You can’t just sit their and put everybody’s lives ahead of yours and think that counts as love. You just can’t. You have to do things. I’m going to do what I want to do. I’m going to be who I really am. And I’m going to figure out what that is. And we could all sit around and wonder and feel bad about each other and blame a lot of people for what they did or didn’t do or what they didn’t know. I don’t know. I guess there could always be someone to blame. It’s just different. Maybe it’s good to put things in perspective, but sometimes, I think that the only perspective is to really be there. Because it’s okay to feel things. I was really there. And that was enough to make me feel infinite. I feel infinite.” 
― Stephen ChboskyThe Perks of Being a Wallflower

#5 – “Love Wins” by Rob Bell. There, I said it. 

(It’s not what you think, guys – read before you judge!)



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Kim, Kourtney, and Khloe: Meet the ‘Joneses’

Here is a paper I wrote for my Television & Culture class – I’m not sure if it’s what my professor was looking for, but it makes for a good blog! (and that is, after all, what really matters lol) 

Kim, kourtney, and khloe kardashian

Kim, Kourtney, and Khloe: Meet the ‘Joneses’ of the 21st Century

The phrase ‘keeping up with the Joneses’ refers to one’s need to stay ‘on top’ of what the neighbours are doing – where they are taking their holidays, what kind of car they drive, what type of school they send their kids to – and engage in an often futile attempt to ‘keep up’ with that lifestyle, which always seems just out of reach. With reality shows invading our television Networks and our fascination (or obsession?) with the rich and famous, there are new ‘Joneses’ in town, and they go by the name “Kardashian”. And it is through watching these shows and applying the same need to ‘keep up’ that once applied only to our white-picket-fence neighbours that we find ourselves perpetually wanting more, which leads to feelings of discontentment, anxiety, and depression.

The Kardashians aren’t the only ones offering us a glimpse into their over-the-top lifestyle, there’s also Kimora, Giuliana & Bill, the cast of Jersey Shore, and the oh-so-enduring women of The Real Housewives – to name a few. And because there are so many people showcasing their extravagant lifestyles, us ‘commoners’ begin to think that lifestyle is not only normal, but that it is attainable and even deserved, so we set out on our journey to ‘get what is rightfully ours: fame and fortune. And so the shopping begins: new shoes, new clothes, new car, new house – the purchases get bigger and bigger. Then onto cosmetics: fake hair, fake nails, fake tan, fake body.

And as the bills get larger, what do we do? We work harder. This results in several possibilities. First, if parents are expected to provide these things for their children, then they have no other choice but to work harder, which means less time at home, and a weaker family unit. Second, as children become teenagers and then move into young adulthood, the price tags are now their problem, and so they have two choices: get multiple credit cards and max them out, hoping mommy and daddy will come to the rescue, or follow their parent’s example and just work really hard.

The outcome is a culture in which people are overworked and unfulfilled, never reaching the ‘goal’ because the goal is constantly moving further and further away. As the rich get richer and acquire better toys, faster cars, and bigger houses, we fall further and further behind. And the more we work to try and keep up, the more unfulfilled, anxious, and depressed we become. However, despite what we commonly believe, these feelings are not the result of “not having enough”; they are the result of sacrificing everything of substance in order to chase after ‘enough’ in a context where enough doesn’t even exist. We think if we could just save up and get that car/do those renovations/go on that holiday, then we won’t be so stressed, tired, and depressed; but, in reality, we are simply fueling the flame, because there is no ‘enough’, there is no finish line, there is no maximum.

It is not the lack of things that fuels our anxiety and depression, it is the sacrifices we make in order to acquire those things. Fulfillment doesn’t come from fulfilling our desires (though on the surface it seems like it should); fulfillment comes from accepting what we have and appreciating it. Having Louboutins on your feet won’t make you happy – at least not in any lasting way – but achieving a sense of gratefulness and contentment with what you have will. We’ve lost our sense of contentment to our desire to ‘keep up with the Joneses’, and this is nothing unique to our generation, but what is new is that the modern Joneses are no longer our clean-cut neighbours in their white capris and argyle sweaters; the Joneses are Kim, Khloe, and Kourtney, and a game that could never be won in the first place has now become that much harder.    


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