Last month over at Libero Network we were talking about stress management and I made a looooong list of ways I manage stress – check it out…
(originally published here on May 21, 2013)
The past few months have been stressful to say the least. I was in my final semester of my undergrad taking a heavy load of courses, work was becoming increasingly busy by the week, I had friends turn out not to be friends at all, a relationship from my past resurfaced in a way I wish it hadn’t, and I went through the busyness of a move. I also had a friend pass away.
And then in this past month I had final exams, an intense summer course that took me by surprise, and I’ve been trying to figure out what I want to do with my life after graduating, both in the short and long term. Wow, that is a lot when I see it written out.
This past week I’ve been dealing with what I call a “midlife crisis.” My cousin refers to it as “burnout” – but I like my definition better.
Tonight I hit my breaking point. As I was driving home after pulling an 8 hour workday at Starbucks (to clarify: I don’t work at Starbucks, I do work at Starbucks), I broke down sobbing uncontrollably. I think the last few months just sort of came pouring out of me unexpectedly.
In light of this, and since we are talking about Stress Management this month, anyways, I want to share with you guys my list of things I do to wind down, keep the stress at bay, and maintain my “zen.”
Note: my needs differ depending on the situation so it’s important for me to be in-tune with that. For example, sometimes I just need to go for a run and release my negative energy that way; tonight, however, though I’d planned on going for a run after I’d finished my work, I realized I was exhausted physically and emotionally and what I needed rather than exercise was to make myself a warm bath. So I did that instead. It’s all about knowing your options and listening to your body/mind and giving it what it needs.
So here it goes…
Things I do in the moment/during a stressful period:
- Let it out. Note: this is different than “let it go.” I find to tell someone “let it go,” though it serves it’s purpose in some situations (especially when it comes to obsessions and things we can’t control), is not very productive. Letting it out, on the other hand, is incredibly productive and is, in my opinion, one of the best ways to let something go. What I did in my car tonight – that was me letting it out. Cry, scream, yell – do whatever you have to do; it’s all about feeling and allowing yourself permission to feel.
Aaaand if you’re like me and sometimes prefer videos over reading, here is last week’s Sunday vlog in which I share my Top 5 Stress-Reducing activities: (don’t forget to subscribe! youtube.com/lbersaglio)
I hope you guys found this helpful and that you have a sress-free weekend filled with chillaxing! (yep, I say that)